What's there to keep a lookout for, when you finally face a new environment, a bunch of new faces whom you will deem to acknowledge as school/coursemates for up to 3 years?
This is the harsh reality of life. You meet new people, make new friends, drift with the old ones, make more friends at work, but always keeping in contact with the ones that stayed.
and I'm thankful for the bunch of those that did.
We always ask ourselves, am I making the correct friends? Am I making the right decisions? I believe i've made the right decision thus far, and i'm really happy in school now. sorta. But deep down I've always been wondering if who will be the ones that will really stick with you through thick and thin, making friends with you not for the sake of exams and papers, but genuinely, to make friends, to have a close bond with you.
People always believed the friends you make reflects on the personality you give as an impression to others, which means that if A is famous/pretty whatsoever, whichever person B that makes friends with A will deem as the 'popular' one as well. Why this sort of thinking though? Not just school, this is happening everywhere, and people deem 'fame' either on social networks or not, as a physical impression and aura that you will give others.
These are the 8 types of friends that I've came up with after surviving in poly for the past few months(i made through 1 sem)
1. The ones you see & say hi, but nothing more.
I deem those as a more harmless type - it depends, though. Some may seem real friendly with you in a face of a crowd, but when it's not, its a completely different story. These kind of people are real scary. I haven't found any solution to keep away from them.
2. The ones you are quite close with, but still stick with different group of friends.
These are much better, but there is a risk they might just somehow have a slip in their tongue and tell their friends which cute guy you saw earlier in the canteen. just an example though, lol
3. The ones that you are close with, and you hang out, but only in school.
This describes my life right now. I'm not sure, but I surely have fun with them in school, it's just that something stopping you, and you realise all of you just can't hang out when it's not schooling period, weird i know. Nevertheless still thankful for them that made my poly life less miserable because we still share the common interests. :)
4. The fakes
Meh. Nothing much to talk about this.
5.The ones that only find you when they need help in their work.
I think this is the highest level though, I mean I would really love to help people if I can manage to do that particular question, but if you are that kind that don't even bother to make an effort to at least acknowledge me as a school or class mate & you actually remembered my name when you need help!!!! wow!!!! hope nobody gets offended by this because it's not targeted to anyone but its true, I mean if the shoe really fits then I can't help but you can actually go ahead and wear it.
6. The ones you are close with, but you realise they turnt & bitching bout' you
This hasn't actually happened on me & I'm thankful for that. oh maybe it happened just that i didn't realize whoops. But it applies more on girls though. okay next.
7. The ones you are very close with, and actually do hang out!!!
These kind of friends are actually kind of a rare breed, but you actually appreciate them so much after you stepped into poly life, moreover they were the ones that listened to your shit when you were down in school about every particular thing. I've met them through my cca and I'm thankful for every single one of them, because till now even after we ended ndp, things are still going smoothly & im heading over for kbbq later on with them hahaha.
8. The ones that click with you well, & you actually hope you can hang out with them more
Yep. For the hangout part, it depends actually, maybe after the hoo-ha drama you will then decide they should actually be fitted into category 3. You can click with some particular people actually, but there's just some things stopping you from being closer:
-different groups of friends
-different common interests
-some guy/girl is admiring that particular person and it'll be awkward if you decide to hang out w/ them & the other party gets jealous(like whaaaaat)
-click well, but your friends might not support the idea
-click well, but their friends might not support the idea
This post isn't directed particularly to any human soul whatsoever, but from what i observed through that one semester of school I've actually known these type of people existed. Who knows, the list might probably shoot up to 20? 30? when I'm in year 3.
These are just my primary judgement, I might be wrong, but some are just what's happening to me right now and I actually hope things will turn out better in time. Afterall, both time management and studies are which I believe would be the 2 most important things that I should be focusing on instead.
School has been great, but I hope things will turn out better.
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